mothers who stay with child abusers

Texts and family reunions

I heard back from my mother on my birthday a little while ago. She wished me a happy birthday, in…

6 years ago

Reframing mother’s day for incest survivors

I am going to celebrate Mother's day tomorrow, in honour of my inner mother - the part of myself that…

10 years ago

Another disappointing response from a relative

I had my aunt visit recently, the one who was also assaulted by my father. When I visited her a…

12 years ago

No Letter

My wife nailed it. She said "there isn't going to be a letter, she didn't get what she wanted." According…

13 years ago

‘Mother’s day’ song for mother complicit in child abuse

I did end up writing a song,. about the hypocrisy of my mother expecting me to celebrate mother's day, to…

13 years ago

Rape dreams and release

So I had 'fending off rape dreams' this morning, three consecutive ones. Not a big surprise, given how angry I've…

13 years ago

PTSD Spaciness triggered waiting for letter from mom

So I've been extra spacey lately since the news about the impending letter from my mom replying to the one…

13 years ago

Visit with older brother – is the abuser dead yet?

My older brother called me on the weekend and we got together to watch his kid play in a sporting…

13 years ago

Letter from mom on it’s way…

My mom's sister (who I like) called me this weekend to let me know that my mom has finally written…

13 years ago

Eureka – take that, vulvadynia!

Okay, I seem to have it figured out. The yoga is great, but I found something even better. Just becoming…

13 years ago

What I learned about night fears and sexual abuse survivors

In this post, I wanted to share what I've learned about night fears resulting from sexual assaults as a child…

13 years ago

Some Christmas gifts are not worth the price

As a  pagan, I don't celebrate the birth of a god/saint/martyr from another religion as such. However I grew up…

13 years ago

Honour is what you know to be true about yourself

It's one in the morning, and I can't sleep. I'm regretting the bar of chocolate I ate at the movie,…

14 years ago

Hangover

Today was the first day alone I've had since I got back from my trip to see my relatives. My…

14 years ago

Visiting Family

Well, I went back east for a week to visit my moms siblings, my dad / abuser's sister and a…

14 years ago

Family Reunion

Don't panic, it's not MY family, it's my wife's. However, in the wake of my mother's stalker-like note, I'm a…

14 years ago

Hand-delivered note from mom

I went out my front door and found the following note stuffed into my mailbox, hanging out. I recognized my…

14 years ago

Post therapy

Well, it's been a couple of weeks now since my last therapy session I think. I'm choosing to spend time…

14 years ago